If you’re someone who loves setting goals, but often finds you fall short.. guess what – you’re normal!
Turns out, this whole approach of stating what we want and then taking action does NOT work well for most humans.
Danielle La Porte believes we’ve been doing things backwards. She says we’re starting our goal setting process all wrong and it’s kinda wrecking us.
This woman knows her stuff.. she’s one of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, been featured in Forbes magazine as a business coach, and has written 4 books.
She’s has a simple explanation + tools for us to use. Check out this video below with Marie Forleo.
Below this video, please find the 3 step process I use from Danielle’s system
Here’s the trick: Start from your heart.
STOP acting from your head. Going from Thoughts to Actions just doesn’t work.. our heads get in the way. FEELINGS first, then Strategy.
“It’s not the particular achievement or getting the thing that’s really driving us.. What we’re going for is the FEELING we want to feel when we get what we want” – Danielle La Porte
TRY this simple 3 step process
1. Write out your ” Core Desired Feelings”
This is 3-4 words that clearly state how you want to feel at all given moments throughout your day (Your daily GPS) Here’s mine:
Whether I’m at Trader Joes, doing research, on a run, out for happy hour, having a difficult conversation, cleaning my house… I want to feel Released, Totally worth It, Tuned in & Wild.
Each of these words hold a lot of meaning for me.
Now come up with 3-4 of your own.
2. Write these out – Put them in your phone & 4-5 pieces of paper to put all around you- Wallet, glovebox, satchel, gym bag, fridge door, bathroom mirror.
3. Put these words to EVERYTHING you do. How you order at happy hour, how you approach your workout, how you show up for people in your life, how you do your work, how you pick out your Netflix show.
LET YOUR CDF’s be your GPS!
Feelings FIRST, Perception SECOND, Thoughts THIRD…
Your feelings determine your perception and THAT drives your thoughts into action!
Now as you step up to that next thing you know you gotta do, but don’t really FEEL like doing – pull out your CDF’s .. will this thing make you feel any of your CDF’s?
- green juice over muffin
- 5 min meditation over social media
- moving outside over grinding through computer work
- research for work over happy hour with a friend
It’s been a total GAME CHANGER for me I’m staying more on track to my goals than I’ve ever been before. I’m way more decisive & ease-fullly driven. That’s huge.
Feelings first, THEN strategy. Go from 1. Your Heart (how you feel) THEN 2. Your PERCEPTION (how you want to view things) THEN 3. Your Thoughts then you take action with that next best step
I hope this helps you and you totally enjoy it. If you need someone to keep you on track and accountable .. that’s my bag. I’m keep people challenged, on track and super accountable, while you enjoy life more!