Sex Issues: Low desire, pain. Don’t dismiss your lack of desire or decline in intimacy. You Do Not need to be fixed.. you DO need to understand what is happening to your body and how it could be affecting your relationships.
Scroll down to the videos if you are in a hurry for resources. Read on to learn WHY I know these resources work.
When perimenopause started for me at age 39, I could not have an orgasm.. that is until I used the tools below and got educated by Dr. Kelly Casperson, ( see videos below) on why I am not broken and what I can do.
I’m proud to say all this information and the tools in my bedside stand are keeping me feeling younger and healthier. Not to mention feel more confident and intimate with my husband.
I am a huge fan of testosterone. It eradicated my joint pain and inflammation. Every woman is different, I knew something was off when I started feeling super “sluggish” and my muscles were sore and joints ached. If you are nourishing yourself well and getting proper sleep, you should rarely be sore from workouts. ( Book a 20 min consult call with me if you are)
For testosterone, I use Androgel, (tiny dab of gel on my inner thigh daily) prescribed by my Doctor (a menopause specialist, Dr. Maiah Hall at UW Valley Women’s Health in Renton) If you do not have a good physician to turn to check out the Menopause Directory of Clinicians: CLICK HERE
Or schedule a 20 min consult CLICK HERE and I’ll get you going with the resources you need
Regarding sex and issues with desire and pain you need Dr. Kelly Casperson. She is THE Pro and leader on the topic of women in mid life and sex. Check out her Book and Podcast both titled : You Are Not Broken
She helps us understand why lack of desire and dry vulvas are normal! Better yet she gives the hard science on what we can do right now.
Watch and Listen : Dr. Kelly’s TED TALK Why adults need Sex Ed TED TALK + 3 more great resources from her.
Orgasms improve our mood, decrease stress, decrease inflammation, aid muscle recovery and enhance sleep, they also help up improve our immune systems. When I need to train harder for a strength challenge, I schedule an orgasm with my vibrator. My husband is fantastic AND my orgasm is MY responsibility. If he’s game, I’ll have him join.. but I do not depend on him for my orgasms.
Here are the goodies I use to ensure I achieve an orgasm weekly ( with and without my husband)
To orgasm I need a lot or prolonged clit stimulation. Most women do! A great clit sucker with 12 different speeds gets the job done. This is well engineered, comfortable to use and my husband loves to watch me use this. Hands down the most sure way I will have an amazing orgasm, with or without my partner.
2. LUBE is everything!! Use a lot, keep it every nightstand.
Use all sex toys with a Water Based Lube = Prevents silicone breakdown on the toys
Lube with your partner = UBER LUBE ( game changer!) CLICK HERE
3. Serum stick for vaginal tissue: Hygiene Hero VipStick Serum CLICK HERE
I love these classy little serums that look like a lipstick container! The Vipstick Pleaure Primer plumps things up for a faster and bigger orgasm.
The daily Vipstick is a daily primer to help you rejuvenate, hydrate, soothe and protect your vulva.
4. Quim Serums. For everyday moisture, rejuvenation & Intimate serum
I’ve been using Quim products for about 6 years now. A real game changer. It’s more lubricating that Hygiene Hero. Vipstick increases arousal, Quim serums improve moisture and creates more smoothness in sex.
Go for both Vipstick and Quim, I use Quim Happy Clam everyday and Hygiene hero vipstick to reach climax sooner with my toy and or partner.
5. OMG Yes Video Tutorials on what works best for women arousal CLICK HERE for tasteful site
This is not porn. In fact its the furthest thing from porn. It is real life women, one at a time sharing their struggles in intimacy and and demonstrating what works for them to increase arousal and have better orgasms.
Thanks to OMGyes. I had my first orgasm 8 years ago. Ever! In my life! A lot of women are in this boat. These videos are beautifully done with women of all different real life body type and ages. I got my best tip from a beautiful grey haired women in her early 60’s! Check it out, you’ve got eveything to gain!
If you have ANY questions or concerns, do not hesitate to hit me up:) Text me at 206-310-9079 or email brebrighter@gmail.com for a quick reply.
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